Comments on: How To Accept Criticism http://sandykumskov.com/accept-criticism/ Thu, 03 Mar 2011 17:02:19 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sandy http://sandykumskov.com/accept-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-431 Sandy Mon, 10 Aug 2009 00:24:48 +0000 http://sandykumskov.com/?p=627#comment-431 Hi Maria Well there's a couple of things that could be going on here - one is that he really does have racially-biased feelings and may not have awareness that expressing these feelings is damaging your relationship. Another is that he could simply be making statements that you are interpreting as racially biased. Are the statements directed towards you, or about someone else? If he is racially-biased I'm not sure what you could say that would be likely to open his mind - that is a long process that he would need to be willing to undertake. The only thing I can say for sure is if you are feeling hurt and abused by this person's comments, and you feel unable to say anything to him, there is some work you can do on your own beliefs to help you get stronger in the face of the comments. The only thing I know for sure about anything, is that when I react negatively to what anyone else is doing or saying, the only thing I know I can change is my response. If you're willing to explore this process, I recommend my <a href="http://sandykumskov.com/eft-personal-peace-procedure/" rel="nofollow">Personal Peace Journal</a> - it's free, and it's powerful. I'm not sure that's the response you were hoping for, but I hope it's useful for you anyway. Please feel free to elaborate or continue the discussion. Either way, thanks for posting :) Sandy Hi Maria
Well there’s a couple of things that could be going on here – one is that he really does have racially-biased feelings and may not have awareness that expressing these feelings is damaging your relationship. Another is that he could simply be making statements that you are interpreting as racially biased. Are the statements directed towards you, or about someone else? If he is racially-biased I’m not sure what you could say that would be likely to open his mind – that is a long process that he would need to be willing to undertake. The only thing I can say for sure is if you are feeling hurt and abused by this person’s comments, and you feel unable to say anything to him, there is some work you can do on your own beliefs to help you get stronger in the face of the comments. The only thing I know for sure about anything, is that when I react negatively to what anyone else is doing or saying, the only thing I know I can change is my response. If you’re willing to explore this process, I recommend my Personal Peace Journal – it’s free, and it’s powerful.

I’m not sure that’s the response you were hoping for, but I hope it’s useful for you anyway. Please feel free to elaborate or continue the discussion. Either way, thanks for posting :)

Sandy

]]> By: cynthia martinez http://sandykumskov.com/accept-criticism/comment-page-1/#comment-429 cynthia martinez Sun, 09 Aug 2009 09:34:58 +0000 http://sandykumskov.com/?p=627#comment-429 thank you but there was not enough explanation on "destructive criticism". Please help I know of someone who voices remarks that sound racially biased and It made me feel hurt and angry to the point that I want to end our relationship. Can you please explain what words to say that he would finally understand and maybe care about his verbage? Thank you for your kind input. Maria thank you but there was not enough explanation on “destructive criticism”. Please help I know of someone who voices remarks that sound racially biased and It made me feel hurt and angry to the point that I want to end our relationship. Can you please explain what words to say that he would finally understand and maybe care about his verbage? Thank you for your kind input.
Maria

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